Getting To Know More About Al-Anon
A family of support groups for people who have been affected by alcoholism in their family is Al-Anon. The aim of these groups is to be recuperative and curative.
Al- Anon is a support organization for the friends and family members of problem drinkers, founded in 1951. This organization was founded by Lois Wilson, who is also popular by the name of Lois W and Al Anon came into being 16 years after the formation of Alcoholics Anonymous [AA] by her husband. Lois W sort to help others suffering at the hands of alcoholics like herself. Al-Anon is an organization self-supported through member donations. There are meetings available through the assistance of family members and friends of alcoholics to cope with and better serve the interests of their loved ones even if they are in different stages of recovery.
Providing support to family members by making them understand that they are not alone in this struggle is the primary focus of Al-Anon.
The Effects On A Family Due To Alcoholism
Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness, because it negatively affects both the drinkers and people around them. A clear-cut system of friends and family members support is an integral part of recovery from alcoholism.
Lack of understanding the cause of their loved one's drinking problem makes family members suffer self-condemnation and also not know how to deal with the problem. The Al-Anon group meetings help bring these issues to light and teach members how to deal with alcoholism as it affects the whole family.
Alateen- Al-Anon For Teenagers
Besides, Al-Anon has a group named Alateen organized specially for young people whose family member suffers from alcoholism.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
The Benefits Of Attending An Al-Anon Group
The people in the group are struggling like you or are going through what you are experiencing as a victim of alcoholism. People are different, although, Al-Anon members have all had similar experiences with their struggles. With this program, you get to share experiences with people who have faced situations similar to yours. These meetings are widespread all over the country. Contact us on 0800 246 1509 for assistance in locating a group near you.
What You Should Anticipate From A Meeting
For anyone who is affected by someone else's drinking, Al- Anon meetings are for those. You can get all the help required if you are being affected by the drinking behaviour of a person you know.
A number of people are not certain about what they can expect and are therefore, hesitant to attend their first meeting. When thinking of attending a meeting, some things should be kept in mind:
- First and foremost, attending Al-Anon is anonymous
- All the members of this group have had an encounter with an alcoholic in their lives
- You are not forced to talk or discuss your issues though it is encouraged
- These Meetings Are Of Different Types
- Some of them may be more effective for you than other ones.
- There is no religious base for Al-Anon
- Meetings are focused on Al-Anon 12 step program
Al -Anon meetings permit attendees to "take what they like and leave the rest", being conducted under a mantra. Based on this formula the meetings concentrate on the sharing of experiences and the hardships of the attendees rather than giving them any instructions about what they should do.
Al-Anon And The 12 Stages
Most meetings begin with a reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. The Alcoholics Anonymous started the 12 step recovery program that is being used in the Al-Anon meetings. Members of Al-Anon can take help from a sponsor who can assist them to work through the steps and is available for any support needed during hardships of any kind just as the case is with Alcoholics Anonymous. These steps are the following:
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- The members learn how to accept alcohol addiction as an illness, which they cannot control if somebody else suffers from it.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Pretty often members try to change or control their significant others and drive themselves to the verge.
- They understand to accept that they can revert to sanity, after acknowledging they are powerless.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.
- Learning how to forgive is an extremely important step of the program, together with acceptance.
- Carry out a thorough and undaunted moral inventory of ourselves.
- A huge part of the steps are self-discovery, and this is the beginning of the procedure.
- They then come up with how they have been affected by the condition and what they might have done to hurt others or themselves.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Thats a study of each listing in the group members moral inventory, which enables them to delve into each problem.
- Got fully ready to have God eliminate all the flaws of character.
- This is an important step because it comes after accepting in full that the recovery process is supported by a greater power.
- calmly begged Him to remove our drawbacks.
- Members are assisted by this part of the 12 Steps to understand how they may have been dominating or judgmental toward an addict and how that is counterproductive.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- The road to recovery is a personal effort.
- Sometimes it not always your fault a person is addicted.
- They must be willing and prepared to forgive themselves and to make amends.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Working on the steps of recovery and help after forgiving yourself is the next step.
- Went on making personal inventory and each time we were wrong, we admitted it at once.
- Passing through these twelve Steps is a time-consuming process.
- Slipping up is quite normal despite members already having made an inventory.
- Step 10 provides a recognition that this is an ongoing process.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- This is a personal, spiritual step that involves acceptance and comfort amongst the anxiety of recovery.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
- The last step is a realization that the journey of the member is not over.
- Encouragement is provided to members to support other members with their education.
Recognising The Higher Power
Despite Al-Anon not being a religious program of any kind, the members within do have an acceptance of a greater power. Every member has their own religion affiliation. Al-Anon gladly accepts members from all religious traditions and denominations; nobody is forced to alter their beliefs here.